Why are people so afraid of rejection? It seems to stem a lot from self rejection. People are so afraid of rejection and it seems like it’s for multiple reasons. Maybe they have anxiety over what would happen if they were accepted and what new challenges or problems would arise and would they be able to handle it. Maybe it’s because they’ve already created a world in their head where things ride on acceptance. In cases where people become violent, even to the point of taking someone’s life, they don’t consider an honest self reflection. People get so caught up in what other people think. They don’t take the time to accept things about themselves, even if it’s the things they don’t like. People seems to be afraid because what if all the things they hate about themselves, the other person sees and agrees with. They don’t think about even trying to improve themselves or truly accept themselves. Often I’ve found that people say they accept themselves but really are in a pit of self loathing that they refuse to change or balance. They say they know they need to change, but they’re fine (really) with who they are. But when the possibility of rejection comes up, they become even more angsty because they don’t want to be rejected. If someone was truly comfortable with themselves and able to think realistically, then they would be able to accept all possible outcomes including rejection. Whether they dislike themselves or not. People that have such a limited view of thinking often never get out of it because they’ve already limited themselves to that view and pattern. They don’t actually want to get better. Maybe it’s because they like the attention they get. Maybe it’s because they have any excuse as to why they can’t change. Maybe it’s because they don’t know any other way. But there are so many ways to start making a change in yourself or at the very least becoming truly comfortable with yourself. Who cares if you have depression or anxiety. I personally have both. But I’m making an effort to work through my traumas and issues to be able to be more comfortable with myself. I don’t bother to know people who are clearly toxic or unhealthy. Nor do I have a problem cutting someone off if they exhibit toxic traits (especially when they’ve been confronted on it).

I think people should work toward being stable and finding people that are healthy and implement healthy change and improvement. People need to be able to reflect and take criticism about bad situations or things that they are doing that are unhealthy.